Send Condolences, Not Casket Pictures: 7 Basic Rules for a Funeral
I was just surfing the web and came upon an article that said it contained the pictures of 32 celebrities in their caskets looking peaceful. We often wish a peaceful rest for our loved ones and those who've passed to whom we feel something of a connection. But to me, there's something just morbid about sharing the picture of someone in a casket. With that being said, there are a number of rules for funerals that should go unspoken, but for the sake of those who are unaware, let's share a few. I'll start.
1. Most people would rather remember loved ones as they were. Sharing the unsolicited photo of a person in a casket is beyond tacky.
2. It is flat out rude to ask on social media "What happened?" or "How did he/she die"? If the person making a R.I.P. post didn't disclose what happened, find out the best way you can but asking in the open isn't appropriate.
3. CLOWNING at a funeral to turn attention to yourself is the quickest way to catch a chop to the throat. (s/n: Ushers, stop forming barriers around people who are obviously clowning. Let one hit her head on the pew and the clowning will stop.)
4. If asked to sing at the funeral, sing a song that will bring peace to the survivors of the deceased. "Performing" in hopes of being booked for your next gig, "Gangsta Lean," and this one right here.... Highly inappropriate:
5. If you're not in the immediate family, don't try to jump
your happy a$$ into the family car unless they invite you.
6. The repast is not a party. If you didn't go to the funeral, don't show up for the repast. And if you went to the funeral, the repast is not to get you full and definitely isn't the time to be picky.
7. The grave site is NOT the time to be greeting and laughing with those you haven't seen in a while. Those mourning don't want to hear your laughter at that moment.... UNLESS in a practice that is increasing in popularity, the funeral is a homegoing celebration!
This is a short list, but I think I've covered the most common infractions. If I've missed something, feel free to add it in the comments.