Be Careful . . . .
I am sure that you are familiar with the expression, "Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people". Admittedly, there are ways to speak of an individual that can be pleasing to them. But this expression underlines our darker experiences. All around us we have the ever-present media, social and professional, we are continually dealing with individuals lives at a level of intimacy that be rather inappropriate.
You may be thinking how can you escape your habit of using words to hurt others? If you recognize that the ultimate Hearer of your words is God, who actually wants you to be better that that, you would not find yourself in difficulty.
When it is all said and done, if the words from your mouths about others please God, then you honor Him. "Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord" (Ps. 19:14).